“you never know the pain someone carries until you lend an ear and listen as a friend […]”


Rory Kramer, videographer and photographer for a number of our favorite EDM acts including The Chainsmokers and Krewella, was involved in a major car accident earlier this week that left him in the hospital with multiple contusions and abrasions. According to Kramer, the accident happened when he lost control of his car going at a “very high speed” on a gravel road, causing him to collide with a tree and flip his car as his face and shoulder were dragged along the ground.

However, as Kramer goes on in his Instagram post, the real cause goes much deeper.

“I knew I had made a huge mistake of running from my problems of anxiety, depression, dealing with a father with cancer, rather than admitting them and seeking help. […] What I did was stupid and I could have easily lost my life. I am hoping to make changes in my life but I also hope to shed light on the fact you never know the pain someone carries until you lend an ear and listen as a friend.”

It’s clear that anxiety and depression can manifest in many different ways, both visible and not. In Rory’s case, he’s lucky to be alive and wise enough to know that changes need to be made.

Mental health is something to be monitored and cared for just like any other aspect of your life, and it needs to stop being treated as a taboo subject or something to hide.

We’re glad Rory is recovering, and hopefully his example, however unfortunate, can serve as a reminder to someone to receive the help they need.

DISCLAIMER, GRAPHIC POST: 48 hours ago, I lost control of my car at a very high speed on a gravel road, hitting a tree that flipped me upside down, dragging the side of my face and shoulder against the gravel. It peeled my skin right off, leaving me as a bloody mess, screaming for help. I stood there looking at my upside down totaled car in disbelief. I knew I had made a huge mistake of running from my problems of anxiety, depression, dealing with a father with cancer, rather than admitting them and seeking help. I had lost my phone in the process and I was unable to call 911. So I crawled down the road to the nearest farm house and started pounding on the door until they answered and asked them to call an ambulance. I woke up in the ER and called my Dad as he is one of the only numbers I remembered off the top of my head. He went to track down my car so he could find my belongings. When he got to the junk yard, the guy that found my car said he couldn’t believe I walked away from a wreck like that and that my soundboks severed as a roll bar and saved my life. What I did was stupid and I could have easily lost my life. I am hoping to make changes in my life but I also hope to shed light on the fact you never know the pain someone carries until you lend an ear and listen as a friend. From the outside looking in, my life looks amazing and it is pretty freaking sick but I’m also a human being with real feelings and emotions and how we operate nowadays with social media people hide their issues and problems because we so easily judge and compare each other and are led to believe we can’t have anything wrong with ourselves. So be willing to have deep conversations with those close to you and be understanding of others and their feelings. Here’s to the beginning of the next chapter. Thank you to my family, friends, and nurses/doctors that took care of me and keeping me alive the last few days. Keep runnin’ it !

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Featured image via Chris Yoder